But before we get into that it’s important to understand how I was brought up. It played a huge role in how I lived my life and was the basis for all of my decisions.
I was raised to be a “good girl”.
A good girl is someone who never talks back nor speaks up for what she really wants because it would be considered disrespectful, inconsiderate or selfish.
She’s expected not to say or do anything that might upset others so she bites her tongue regardless of her opinions.
The word “no” isn’t in her vocabulary because taking care of everyone and everything before herself is just what she does. Anything else would be selfish and inconsiderate.
A good girl feels like it’s the end of the world when she makes a mistake because being a good girl also means being perfect, so she doesn’t allow herself to change her mind or follow a different path.
I was so concerned with being considered a “good girl”, that I did everything that was expected of me. I followed the “rules” and never wanted to rock the boat……even at the expense of my own happiness and well being.
That often meant censoring who I really was by pushing down the real Amy just to appease others.
Fast forward to a few decades later, I was living in Paris with the job of dreams, sipping champagne beneath the Eiffel Tower. My friends kept telling me how lucky I was to be living this life, and everything seemed perfect..……at least on the outside.
But on the inside, I felt like this fairytale life was starting to become a nightmare. My dream job was sucking the life out of me. I was exhausted, confused, and began to question if this was what I really wanted.
I felt like something must be REALLY wrong with me for feeling this miserable and unfulfilled with what should be a very satisfying life.
But it was only when I questioned why I felt so terrified to leave a situation that I knew was no longer good for me that I realized where so many of my fears were stemming from.
I was afraid that my decision to turn my back on this amazing life and opportunity was not following the rules or doing what was expected of me. I worried about what people would think and feared I would let everybody down.
I put so much pressure on myself to do or be something based on what I thought I was SUPPOSED to do rather than doing it because I TRULY WANTED TO BE DOING IT.
And it was only then, that I realized just how much my current behavior and current unhappiness was tied back to my desire to be the “good girl”.
And that’s why I help women just like you, who’ve spent an eternity trying to please everyone around you and along the way have lost yourself and what it means to be truly happy.
So if you’re sick and tired of trying to be perfect, and doing what’s expected of you and are ready to give yourself permission to make new choices by ditching your people pleasing, “good girl” behaviors, I’d love to help you with that.